I called Marilyn today to ask her what she wanted for her birthday.  It's in five days.  I thought I would send her some more of John's CDs.  Last year I sent her his Motown collection. This year I found Isaac Hayes and "Shaft", Billy Preston, Marvin Gaye and Chicago to send her.  Every time I go through John's collection I am more and more amazed at his discerning ear for the very best in Rock & Roll.  He has two shelves of LPs down in the basement that I have to go through.  But Marilyn knew exactly what she wanted.  She asked for one of John's jackets if I still had any.  I kept his old, leather, "salty-looking" London Fog that he bought when we lived in North Carolina. I think it must have been one of our first excursions to an outlet.  We didn't know anything about outlets and John had a blast shopping in Burlington, NC for the first time!  He wore it all the time - for at least 20 years.  I couldn't part with it as I packed up all his clothes for the thrift stores these past two terrible years after his death.  That jacket was the only thing hanging in the closet.  Someone told me about "curating" things and that's what I thought I was doing by keeping that one thing.  But it is time to let go of it to an admiring sister-in-law.  Marilyn wants my late husband's leather jacket!  I love that!  My siblings loved him so.  That is a consolation.  I hope Marilyn knows how much she is helping me, even though it's her birthday.